What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A searing memoir of reckoning and healing by acclaimed journalist Stephanie Foo, investigating the little-understood science behind complex PTSD and how it has shaped her life

“Achingly exquisite . . . providing real hope for those who long to heal.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone


ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: The Washington Post, Cosmopolitan, NPR, Mashable, She Reads, Publishers Weekly

By age thirty, Stephanie Foo was successful on paper: She had her dream job as an award-winning radio producer at This American Life and a loving boyfriend. But behind her office door, she was having panic attacks and sobbing at her desk every morning. After years of questioning what was wrong with herself, she was diagnosed with complex PTSD—a condition that occurs when trauma happens continuously, over the course of years.

Both of Foo’s parents abandoned her when she was a teenager, after years of physical and verbal abuse and neglect. She thought she’d moved on, but her new diagnosis illuminated the way her past continued to threaten her health, relationships, and career. She found limited resources to help her, so Foo set out to heal herself, and to map her experiences onto the scarce literature about C-PTSD.

In this deeply personal and thoroughly researched account, Foo interviews scientists and psychologists and tries a variety of innovative therapies. She returns to her hometown of San Jose, California, to investigate the effects of immigrant trauma on the community, and she uncovers family secrets in the country of her birth, Malaysia, to learn how trauma can be inherited through generations. Ultimately, she discovers that you don’t move on from trauma—but you can learn to move with it.

Powerful, enlightening, and hopeful, What My Bones Know is a brave narrative that reckons with the hold of the past over the present, the mind over the body—and examines one woman’s ability to reclaim agency from her trauma.

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Published Feb 21, 2023

352 pages

Average rating: 8.52

233 RATINGS

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Readers say *What My Bones Know* is a raw, powerful memoir combining Stephanie Foo’s personal healing journey from complex PTSD with insightful resear...

saravienna_
Sep 16, 2025
9/10 stars
Incredible true story and breakdown of how trauma can reverberate through life. Stephanie’s story is unique, and she touches on many subjects that not everyone has to experience, but still connects with her readers with different forms of trauma to carry the over arching path to wellness.
Ava Robbins
Sep 14, 2025
10/10 stars
*chef's kiss* this is going right next to Chanel Miller's memoir on my bookshelf
ImABeliever
Aug 18, 2025
8/10 stars
Raw, powerful, and unflinchingly honest, What My Bones Knew is a memoir that doesn’t just tell a story—it exposes the lingering weight of trauma with heartbreaking clarity. Stephanie Foo dives deep into the realities of complex PTSD, weaving her personal journey with research and reflection in a way that feels both intimate and eye-opening. Her voice is sharp, vulnerable, and often darkly funny, making even the heaviest moments feel deeply human. It’s not an easy read, but it’s an important one—and it stays with you.
JCousin
Jul 27, 2025
9/10 stars
Full of insight, in depth, life affecting.
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Apr 02, 2025
10/10 stars
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