The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
Chapman explains that the five languages of love are:
Words of affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Because a fundamental fact of life is that people—usually partners in a relationship—speak different love languages, understanding what a spouse or partner needs to fulfill them emotionally is crucial to staying together.
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So insightful! My fiance and I read this together and it's already made a difference in our interactions, and we were already so close!
I wish this book had stopped right before chapter 10. I could have done without the rest of the book from that point. Two things happen in those chapters.
1. A man tells his wife he no longer loves her and is going to leave. She is devastated. This example is that he is really no longer "in love" and has actually found a lover that allows him to feel "in love."
Long story short, his love ends up finding out he is an annoying worm and ends the relationship/affair and poor cheating worm is devastated because he was sooooo in lurveeeee with her. It is at THIS point that he decides "heck, maybe I will give marriage counseling a try to see if I can salvage my marriage and not put my children through a divorce now that chickiepoo no longer lurveeeees me."
Becky, you should have just left his ass. You deserve better.
2. A woman no longer feels positive feelings towards her husband because he tells her he hates her and has absolutely no interest in her. He curses her and mistreats her. He will not agree to counseling because naturally he doesn't have a problem; she has a problem. Advice is to really lay on his love language thick even if he is not willing to participate in working on the marriage and see if he becomes responsive. I. Just. Can't. Even.
I was in this marriage. I want to share with you two books that I bought towards the end of my marriage because I was trying to do anything I could to salvage it.
Book #1: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Book #2: It Takes One to Tango
No, I am not making these titles up. Looking back, I am appalled that I would have done anything for someone who was only willing to do nothing. Maybe the two points above are triggers for me due to my experience but man, people deserve better, don't they?
Moving on to the positive of this book - because I didn't one star it, right? I actually really liked this book.
I bought this because I am less than three months from getting married (again). I want this to work. I have found someone who communicates with me, and I want it to stay that way. I want to communicate my needs; I want to understand his. I'm trying to be proactive and not reactive.
There was a lot in here that really made sense. We found our love languages easily. We talked about the specifics of what means a lot to us, what makes us feel loved, what would keep our "love tank" full. We probably could have guessed, but there was a lot of affirmation in here where I'd read and say, "Tell me if this doesn't sound just like me/you/us!"
So it wasn't quite like this:
But it was a lot of this:
I'm glad I finally read this and was able to take away good information that I feel would be useful in my next marriage. 'Cause, hey, I'd like this one to last.
3.5 Stars Rounded to 4
1. A man tells his wife he no longer loves her and is going to leave. She is devastated. This example is that he is really no longer "in love" and has actually found a lover that allows him to feel "in love."
Long story short, his love ends up finding out he is an annoying worm and ends the relationship/affair and poor cheating worm is devastated because he was sooooo in lurveeeee with her. It is at THIS point that he decides "heck, maybe I will give marriage counseling a try to see if I can salvage my marriage and not put my children through a divorce now that chickiepoo no longer lurveeeees me."
Becky, you should have just left his ass. You deserve better.
2. A woman no longer feels positive feelings towards her husband because he tells her he hates her and has absolutely no interest in her. He curses her and mistreats her. He will not agree to counseling because naturally he doesn't have a problem; she has a problem. Advice is to really lay on his love language thick even if he is not willing to participate in working on the marriage and see if he becomes responsive. I. Just. Can't. Even.
I was in this marriage. I want to share with you two books that I bought towards the end of my marriage because I was trying to do anything I could to salvage it.
Book #1: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Book #2: It Takes One to Tango
No, I am not making these titles up. Looking back, I am appalled that I would have done anything for someone who was only willing to do nothing. Maybe the two points above are triggers for me due to my experience but man, people deserve better, don't they?
Moving on to the positive of this book - because I didn't one star it, right? I actually really liked this book.
I bought this because I am less than three months from getting married (again). I want this to work. I have found someone who communicates with me, and I want it to stay that way. I want to communicate my needs; I want to understand his. I'm trying to be proactive and not reactive.
There was a lot in here that really made sense. We found our love languages easily. We talked about the specifics of what means a lot to us, what makes us feel loved, what would keep our "love tank" full. We probably could have guessed, but there was a lot of affirmation in here where I'd read and say, "Tell me if this doesn't sound just like me/you/us!"
So it wasn't quite like this:
But it was a lot of this:
I'm glad I finally read this and was able to take away good information that I feel would be useful in my next marriage. 'Cause, hey, I'd like this one to last.
3.5 Stars Rounded to 4
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