Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

A former international hostage negotiator for the FBI offers a new, field-tested approach to high-stakes negotiations--whether in the boardroom or at home.

** A Wall Street Journal Bestseller **

After a stint policing the rough streets of Kansas City, Missouri, Chris Voss joined the FBI, where his career as a hostage negotiator brought him face-to-face with a range of criminals, including bank robbers and terrorists. Reaching the pinnacle of his profession, he became the FBI's lead international kidnapping negotiator. Never Split the Difference takes you inside the world of high-stakes negotiations and into Voss's head, revealing the skills that helped him and his colleagues succeed where it mattered most: saving lives. In this practical guide, he shares the nine effective principles--counterintuitive tactics and strategies--you too can use to become more persuasive in both your professional and personal life.

Life is a series of negotiations you should be prepared for: buying a car, negotiating a salary, buying a home, renegotiating rent, deliberating with your partner. Taking emotional intelligence and intuition to the next level, Never Split the Difference gives you the competitive edge in any discussion.

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1stSgt Dessart
Aug 21, 2024
This book will make you a more effective communicator.
SharonaFC
Jun 07, 2024
10/10 stars
Best of the best negotiating advice.
Bin
Aug 14, 2023
谈判是具有社会属性的人类的生活中不可避免的交流方式,大到关乎于生死的与绑匪的斗智,小到劝说孩子多吃蔬菜,我们时常都在自觉不自觉的说服与被说服中,但如何在交流中成功达到或超越我们想要的结果却非易事。前FBI首席人质谈判员Chris Voss 在“永不妥协”这本书里通过生动有趣地描述各种成功与失败的谈判案例,剖析了谈判的心理及技巧,为提高我们的谈判胜算率提供了有效的工具。 自以为已进化为理性思考的物种的人类骨子里其实还是以感性为主导,当内在的情感需求得到回应及满足时,逻辑及理智思考便隐退其次。谈判的关键就在于尽量避免自己的情绪牵制感情用事,找到对手显示及非显示的需求,化解对方的敌对防御心理,引发对方的同理心,进而引导对方达成以我们的目标为核心的协议。 要想了解对方,首先要让对方尽可能地多说,并且自己学会听。 - 短暂的沉默 - 运用低沉稳健的语调 - 不做主观臆判,掌控好自己的反应 - 镜像重复对方最后一句话的三个字或关键词 - 引导对方说“No”比迫使对方说“Yes”更有价值,“No”之后的信息可能揭示对方真正的意图 - 标识对方的感受,但不被对方的情绪所影响,以获得对方信任 这些都是与对方建立有效沟通并获取信息的方法。当人们感到安全及被聆听时,他们就会不自觉地透露出更多真实的信息。 在获取有价值的信息后,如何引导对方接受我们的观点便是谈判成功的关键。除了可以重复运用上述方法外, - 用“How” 及 “What” 拒绝对方的要求,尽量不用“No”, 少用“Why” - 主动标榜自己糟糕的一面,给对方高人一等的错觉 - 力争得到 “That’s right ”,而非 “You are right ”,前者让对方在心理上开始接受你, 后者多为对方拒绝你的托辞 - 充分利用人们对失去的恐惧甚于得到的快乐的心理 - 揉碎重组公平的概念,记住世上没有绝对的公平 - 给对方造成控制局面的假象,把对抗转化为合作 - 不要妥协! 谈判的艺术其实就是心理的较量,当我们放下自我,掌控对方的人性弱点,即已优势于对手!

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