Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

What do we expect when we manage our monogamous relationships. Pat ourselves on our back because we are still together? What happens when that voice in your head whispers need? Need for passion, need for desire. My first impulse is guilt. I am good. We are good. Are we? Can we be better? Yes. Perel tackles this relationship conundrum using her experience in a thoughtful approach making multiple pop culture references to lighten or give context to the text. She makes certain to reference primary and secondary sources to drive points about how relationships are shaped, fostered or destroyed. This is a thoughtful read. You may not find yourself jumping in the sack after chapter one and devouring your partner. You will find yourself exploring your own intentions and expectations in order to look at your own relationship and ponder what you want from your partner, the whole relationship and then from yourself. The journey only just begins when you complete this book. Perel gives you a tool in your tool kit for repairing, renovating or reviving your relationship.

Such a great read and an investment if you are in a long term relationship or would like to be in one.

This was a fascinating topic and the author included interesting examples from her counselling practice. I found the book was liberating and helped me to open up and really enjoy sexuality more.

It was fine (more of a 3.5). The author is a psychotherapist and she bases her examples and very generalized advice on her counseling of married couples. She also claims her European culture gives her a different perspective on sexuality and sexuality in marriage. It's not a waste of time to read this whether you're married or not. That said, this book is deeply unscientific. There are no studies or statistics on any element of sexuality or marriage. Probably best not to gamble on any advice you read here - unless you're already in a very desperate situation.