In the Dream House: A Memoir

A revolutionary memoir about domestic abuse by the award-winning author of Her Body and Other Parties
In the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado’s engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad, and a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse. Tracing the full arc of a harrowing relationship with a charismatic but volatile woman, Machado struggles to make sense of how what happened to her shaped the person she was becoming.
And it’s that struggle that gives the book its original structure: each chapter is driven by its own narrative trope—the haunted house, erotica, the bildungsroman—through which Machado holds the events up to the light and examines them from different angles. She looks back at her religious adolescence, unpacks the stereotype of lesbian relationships as safe and utopian, and widens the view with essayistic explorations of the history and reality of abuse in queer relationships.
Machado’s dire narrative is leavened with her characteristic wit, playfulness, and openness to inquiry. She casts a critical eye over legal proceedings, fairy tales, Star Trek, and Disney villains, as well as iconic works of film and fiction. The result is a wrenching, riveting book that explodes our ideas about what a memoir can do and be.
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Readers say *In the Dream House* is a beautifully, poetically written memoir that powerfully, emotionally explores an abusive same-sex relationship wi...
I picked this up as required reading for one of my classes. I enjoyed most of the book. It delved into issues with same-sex relationships being similar to opposite-sex relationships in some not so fun ways.
The layout of the book was interesting and I know that some subtleties we missed because I hadn't read the book that the author was referring to, or had no knowledge of a topic that she discussed. The book was still very good and worth reading.
The layout of the book was interesting and I know that some subtleties we missed because I hadn't read the book that the author was referring to, or had no knowledge of a topic that she discussed. The book was still very good and worth reading.
A very captivating story of domestic abuse. It is written very poetically and profoundly. I enjoyed every chapter. The snippets of analysis of domestic abuse withing LGBTQ community is very educational.
It explains how damaging domestic abuse can be without involving the usual physical abuse. It explains the psychological hurt and damage that is caused including not being able to explain to others without the physical "evidence" of being abused.
I recommend this book to anyone who likes well written good story.
It explains how damaging domestic abuse can be without involving the usual physical abuse. It explains the psychological hurt and damage that is caused including not being able to explain to others without the physical "evidence" of being abused.
I recommend this book to anyone who likes well written good story.
Out of fairness, allow me to defend my 4-star review.
This book deserves a 5-star rating - the writing is delicious and perfect. I don't think I've heard such a vulnerable, throat-punching memoir on abuse in a queer relationship. So why didn't I give it that extra star? That's a "Me"-Problem. My role as it's reader, this time, is just to save it in my memory and tell the people who it's really meant to reach that it exists. Otherwise, I was not the person it was meant for.
This book deserves a 5-star rating - the writing is delicious and perfect. I don't think I've heard such a vulnerable, throat-punching memoir on abuse in a queer relationship. So why didn't I give it that extra star? That's a "Me"-Problem. My role as it's reader, this time, is just to save it in my memory and tell the people who it's really meant to reach that it exists. Otherwise, I was not the person it was meant for.
i actually can't articulate my thoughts rn and i really want to so : review to come !
In all sincerity, this is one of the best books I have ever read.
I needed this book. It was for me.
I needed this book. It was for me.