Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: A Memoir

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The BELOVED STAR OF FRIENDS takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this “CANDID, DARKLY FUNNY...POIGNANT” memoir (The New York Times)


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“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the book fans have been waiting for.

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Published Nov 1, 2022

272 pages

Average rating: 7.12

632 RATINGS

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Community Reviews

Cheri794
Jan 03, 2025
9/10 stars
Listen to the audiobook because he narrates his own book.
ReadingBTWines
Dec 30, 2024
7/10 stars
I felt this book was a very intimate and candid look into the life of Matthew Perry and his personal struggles with addiction. It was made sadder by his passing and the events leading up to his death.
ljzsreadsandreviews
Oct 22, 2024
8/10 stars
I knew this was focused a lot around his struggles with alcoholism and addiction but knowing he didn't make it to a year after this was published just hits different. It's a sad story to begin with but to hear all of what he went through is just so crazy. He had so many near death experiences I'm sure he's looking down saying "it's amazing I lasted this long." What was crazier is he basically called his own death. He mentions he could ‘have a heart attack with no one around to find him’ and that's exactly what happened. I can't imagine all the battles and demons he had to fight while being such a national face. Even after his death, Matthew Perry IS Chandler. I loved hearing his FRIENDS pieces, but to know he was battling so much while being one of my favorite characters is pretty mind-boggling. Overall, I enjoyed this but I also found it so sad! I think I would've thought that even if he was still alive but knowing he’ll never be able to achieve the things he was setting himself up for in his second part of life was so hard to hear.
AbbeyLileTaylor
Aug 29, 2023
8/10 stars
Solid 4.5 Stars
Lisalap8
Apr 17, 2025
10/10 stars
AMAZING and REAL book!

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