The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

From the New York Times bestselling author of All About Love, a brave and astonishing work that challenges patriarchal culture and encourages men to reclaim the best part of themselves.

Everyone needs to love and be loved--even men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways that patriarchal culture keeps them from knowing themselves, from being in touch with their feelings, from loving.

In The Will to Change, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are--whatever their age, marital status, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. But toxic masculinity punishes those fundamental emotions, and it's so deeply ingrained in our society that it's hard for men to not comply--but hooks wants to help change that.

With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves--and lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women.
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208 pages

Average rating: 8.03




Community Reviews

May 31, 2024
8/10 stars
Really enjoying this book, its a very interesting and valuable opinion. I like ready Bell Hooks.
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May 10, 2024
10/10 stars
This book is one of the best read Ive read. This book is so inspiring as a woman to address the mistreatment of men in our society. This books challenges the patriarchy on many levels.
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Oct 16, 2023
10/10 stars
Forced me to look at the little boy i relinquished growing up and love him, but also acknowledge the violence we men unleash onto woman. Moving forward with a will to change! bell hooks is amazing with her writing
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Sep 30, 2023
10/10 stars
Very influential for any man or brave woman to read. Gives you almost a kind of technical framework for that system that most men benefit from. This book improved my awareness of myself, the world around me and how both those tings interact. Highly recommended.
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Mar 31, 2023
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