The Many Lives of Mama Love (Oprah's Book Club): A Memoir of Lying, Stealing, Writing, and Healing
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“Once you start reading, be prepared, because you won’t want to stop.” —Oprah Winfrey
OPRAH’S BOOK CLUB PICK • New York Times bestselling author Lara Love Hardin recounts her slide from soccer mom to opioid addict to jailhouse shot caller and her unlikely comeback as a highly successful ghostwriter in this harrowing, hilarious, no-holds-barred memoir.
No one expects the police to knock on the door of the million-dollar two-story home of the perfect cul-de-sac housewife. But soccer mom Lara Love Hardin has been hiding a shady secret: she is funding her heroin addiction by stealing her neighbors’ credit cards.
Lara is convicted of thirty-two felonies and becomes inmate S32179. She finds that jail is a class system with a power structure that is somewhere between an adolescent sleepover party and Lord of the Flies. Furniture is made from tampon boxes, and Snickers bars are currency. But Lara quickly learns the rules and brings love and healing to her fellow inmates as she climbs the social ladder and acquires the nickname “Mama Love,” showing that jailhouse politics aren’t that different from the PTA meetings she used to attend.
When she’s released, she reinvents herself as a ghostwriter. Now, she’s legally co-opting other people’s identities and getting to meet Oprah, meditate with the Dalai Lama, and have dinner with Archbishop Desmond Tutu. But the shadow of her past follows her. Shame is a poison worse than heroin—there is no way to detox. Lara must learn how to forgive herself and others, navigate life as a felon on probation, and prove to herself that she is more good than bad, among other essential lessons.
The Many Lives of Mama Love is a heartbreaking and tender journey from shame to redemption, despite a system that makes it almost impossible for us to move beyond the worst thing we have ever done.
“Once you start reading, be prepared, because you won’t want to stop.” —Oprah Winfrey
OPRAH’S BOOK CLUB PICK • New York Times bestselling author Lara Love Hardin recounts her slide from soccer mom to opioid addict to jailhouse shot caller and her unlikely comeback as a highly successful ghostwriter in this harrowing, hilarious, no-holds-barred memoir.
No one expects the police to knock on the door of the million-dollar two-story home of the perfect cul-de-sac housewife. But soccer mom Lara Love Hardin has been hiding a shady secret: she is funding her heroin addiction by stealing her neighbors’ credit cards.
Lara is convicted of thirty-two felonies and becomes inmate S32179. She finds that jail is a class system with a power structure that is somewhere between an adolescent sleepover party and Lord of the Flies. Furniture is made from tampon boxes, and Snickers bars are currency. But Lara quickly learns the rules and brings love and healing to her fellow inmates as she climbs the social ladder and acquires the nickname “Mama Love,” showing that jailhouse politics aren’t that different from the PTA meetings she used to attend.
When she’s released, she reinvents herself as a ghostwriter. Now, she’s legally co-opting other people’s identities and getting to meet Oprah, meditate with the Dalai Lama, and have dinner with Archbishop Desmond Tutu. But the shadow of her past follows her. Shame is a poison worse than heroin—there is no way to detox. Lara must learn how to forgive herself and others, navigate life as a felon on probation, and prove to herself that she is more good than bad, among other essential lessons.
The Many Lives of Mama Love is a heartbreaking and tender journey from shame to redemption, despite a system that makes it almost impossible for us to move beyond the worst thing we have ever done.
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The author is a wonderful writer and has a talent. I just didn't feel that she told the whole truth of the crimes she committed, how much she took from the neighbours that it wasn't just trust broken, and her accountability. Her husband at the times was definitely bad news and a toxic influence but the author made it sound like she wanted to quit drugs except her husband would catch her weak and vulnerable. The first half still felt like a bit of victim mentality and less accountability. I definitely did get emotional in the middle but I felt the change in narrative for the second half of the book as the author was proud of her new life (and had a right to be). I feel like the author would probably give motivational TED talks but her memoirs fails to inspire me.
A powerful, gripping memoir of redemption and resilience. Mixed with raw honesty and dark humor, it sheds light on addiction, the justice system, and second chances. Heartbreaking yet hopeful, this book is a testament to the power of transformation and the human spirit.
I am a firm believer in there being consequences for our poor decision-making, breaking laws, and --of course-- actions made with intent to hurt others, but at what point do we allow someone to finally move away from that past... to reform... to make a comeback (provided they've shown the required penitence by serving their time, paying any necessary fees or restitution, completing their community service, etc,... I would even go so far as to say, showing true remorse and a desire to do better)? I think most of us would agree that murder in the first degree and crimes against children should receive the harshest punishments for which there may be no reform, but for the other myriad of crimes and misdeamors that can be committed: at what point is a person's debt paid?
As humans, we are all deeply flawed, so poor decision-making really should come as no surprise since we all do it at some point. Unfortunately, some find themselves in a never-ending loop of bad choices, and without outside guidance or some form of consequence that really puts them on their back (this could be going to jail, or a hefty fine, alienation and excommunication from family and friends, for some it may be losing custody of their children, for others it might even take the near loss of life to get through to them) will likely remain in that loop indefinitely. But for those outside of that loop, as a collective, do we not have some level of responsibility to show empathy and guidance to those we see caught up in that dreaded loop?
The criminal justice and corrections system is poorly designed (maybe not necessarily intentional? ... hopefully... maybe it's just been neglected over the decades?) and needs a complete overhaul. It shouldn't be easy to become a professional criminal! There should be so much support for true reform and guidance/education from those associated with the system and society as a whole that it should actually be a challenge for an individual to be a repeat offender. Most criminals don't start off in life wanting to be a criminal (yes, there are exceptions, but that's not the average individual). Most criminals are shaped by their environment and the circumstances in which they find themselves. Yes, they ultimately make a string of very poor choices, so yes, they should still be held accountable for those choices. But if the system was designed to actually care about helping those individuals, it should be extremely difficult for anyone to repeat most (if not all) of those bad choices.
I read about the people in social work that played a pivotal role in facilitating Mama Love's reintegration into society following her incarceration, and I am inspired. I hope to make similar impacts in peoples lives!
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