The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

This book reminds me The Alchemist and I really liked the dialogue between the professor and the student. I like how they challenge each other and it really puts things into perspective about being proactive in life. A good book to read for anyone wanting to improve their self-esteem and self-actualiztion!

Awesome book! The whole book is a dialogue between a philosopher and a youth so you get two perspectives! Definitely had me researching Adlerian psychology! Great read ! 10/10

I enjoyed it because of the way of teaching through the daily life conversation that we all can relate to in every aspect.

PFS Book Club --- 18th Feb, 23 On Saturday we talked about book called “Courage to be disliked” by Japanese authors Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi. Book is a conversation between youth and philosopher. And big takeaway was that book might help teenagers. These are some of the key takeaways from book 1. You can change anytime. You just choose not to ------- You are choosing not to fulfil your dreams. You don’t commit to anything because you want to leave the possibility open of “I can do it if I can try.” You don’t want to expose your work to criticism. 2. You Fabricate Emotions – A mother is angrily yelling at her daughter. Her boss calls, so she picks up the call and changes her tone and becomes very polite, then when she hangs up, she does back to yelling again. This means we can change emotions if we can. 3. You use feelings of inferiority as an excuse ---- People loose courage to take steps forward and stay in their comfort level by simply giving up and say I am not good enough. They seek comfort in their current inferiority complex state. 4. Deny the desire for recognition ---Wishing so hard to be recognized will lead to a life of following expectations held by other people who want you to be “this kind of person”. And by doing this you throw away who you really are, and live other people lives? 5. Discard other people’s tasks --- Studying at school is the child’s task, not the parent. Parents should be interested in knowing what the child is doing and letting child know that they are ready to assist in studying but they should not intrude on child’s task. Discarding other people task is the first step towards lightening the load and making life simpler. 6. Build Horizontal relationships: Don’t condemn or praise -----When you praise, you are unconsciously creating a hierarchical relationship and seeing the other person as beneath you. As if you are passing a judgement from one person of ability to another person of no ability. You can convey words of gratitude instead. 7. Get a feeling of community --- Please switch from self-interest to concern for others. Self-centered people always end up losing friends. Happiness is feeling of contribution and don’t limit yourself to one community. Three things are needed self-acceptance, confidence in others and contribution to others

Started off strong but failed to wrap up everything nicely in the end. Would rate it 3.5/5 if I could, cause 4/5 is a bit too much. I don't think you can take this book literally and just change your way of living today, but a lot of the concepts are interesting (not all are convincing).