The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance---What Women Should Know

The New York Times bestseller, now in paperback and updated with a new introduction

Confidence. We want it. We need it. But it can be maddeningly enigmatic and out of reach. The authors of the New York Times bestseller Womenomics deconstruct this essential, elusive, and misunderstood quality and offer a blueprint for bringing more of it into our lives.

Is confidence hardwired into the DNA of a lucky few, or can anyone learn it? Is it best expressed by bravado, or is there another way to show confidence? Which is more important: confidence or competence? Why do so many women, even the most successful, struggle with feelings of self-doubt? Is there a secret to channeling our inner confidence?

In The Confidence Code, journalists Katty Kay and Claire Shipman travel to the frontiers of neuroscience on a hunt for the confidence gene and reveal surprising new research on its roots in our brains. They visit the world’s leading psychologists who explain how we can all choose to become more confident simply by taking action and courting risk, and how those actions change our physical wiring. They interview women leaders from the worlds of politics, sports, the military, and the arts to learn how they have tapped into this elemental resource. They examine how a lack of confidence impacts our leadership, success, and fulfillment.

Ultimately, they argue, while confidence is partly influenced by genetics, it is not a fixed psychological state. That’s the good news. You won’t discover it by thinking positive thoughts or by telling yourself (or your children) that you are perfect as you are. You also won’t find it by simply squaring your shoulders and faking it. But it does require a choice: less people pleasing and perfectionism and more action, risk taking, and fast failure.

Inspiring, insightful, and persuasive, The Confidence Code shows that by acting on our best instincts and by daring to be authentic, women can feel the transformative power of a life on confidence.

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Published Apr 3, 2018

272 pages

Average rating: 6.2

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Allison_4
Jul 28, 2023
Just started but really an amazing read! About 150 pages in
richardbakare
Feb 06, 2023
6/10 stars
Authors Katty Kay and Claire Shipman tackle the question of what differentiates confidence levels between people, largely between men and women. It’s a loaded question but one worth exploring. Moreover, they offer a deep dive in how we can nurture confidence in the next generation without raising armipotent tyrants. The tips and tools for confidence building in younger people were insightful and run counterintuitive to what we may think are confidence building habits. The gist of the books exploration comes down to how we maximize potential by removing self-doubt and pursuing mastery. Confidence is that spring board to action. To demonstrate this Kay & Shipman leverage exhaustive amounts of data from scientific studies, personality testing, and interviews to define and explore the roots of confidence. Though some of the confident person examples they hold up have proven to be the cringiest people in the public arena, their arguments still holds. These role models in confidence all highlight a key point in their respective journeys; the cumulative effects of little wins. Katy & Shipman also demonstrate the effects nature and nurture have on our levels of confidence. An answer I won’t spoil for you here. In the end, the confidence code, as the authors define it, is simple. Think Less, Take Action, Be Authentic. That combined with the compound rewards of little steps reminded me a lot of Atomic Habits by James Clear. These two books pair well together.

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