Snow Flower and the Secret Fan: A Novel

Lily is haunted by memories–of who she once was, and of a person, long gone, who defined her existence. She has nothing but time now, as she recounts the tale of Snow Flower, and asks the gods for forgiveness.

In nineteenth-century China, when wives and daughters were foot-bound and lived in almost total seclusion, the women in one remote Hunan county developed their own secret code for communication: nu shu (“women’s writing”). Some girls were paired with laotongs, “old sames,” in emotional matches that lasted throughout their lives. They painted letters on fans, embroidered messages on handkerchiefs, and composed stories, thereby reaching out of their isolation to share their hopes, dreams, and accomplishments.

With the arrival of a silk fan on which Snow Flower has composed for Lily a poem of introduction in nu shu, their friendship is sealed and they become “old sames” at the tender age of seven. As the years pass, through famine and rebellion, they reflect upon their arranged marriages, loneliness, and the joys and tragedies of motherhood. The two find solace, developing a bond that keeps their spirits alive. But when a misunderstanding arises, their lifelong friendship suddenly threatens to tear apart.

Snow Flower and the Secret Fan is a brilliantly realistic journey back to an era of Chinese history that is as deeply moving as it is sorrowful. With the period detail and deep resonance of Memoirs of a Geisha, this lyrical and emotionally charged novel delves into one of the most mysterious of human relationships: female friendship.

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Published May 26, 2009

288 pages

Average rating: 8.1

259 RATINGS

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Readers say *Snow Flower and the Secret Fan* offers a richly detailed, historically grounded portrayal of 19th-century Chinese women’s lives, focusing...

njlbo1
Jul 18, 2023
10/10 stars
Amazing. Reading this made me feel so profoundly grateful to be a woman in present-day America--big feet and all! The women in this story seem not to have experienced any true happiness at all, only lesser degrees of misery and suffering. I believe they loved deeply but could never fully admit it, even to themselves. That seems to me to be the underlying reason for the grave misunderstanding between Lily and Snow Flower. The women were so bound by convention--literally and figuratively--that they could not speak freely of their true emotions. That is what was most heart-breaking to me. What a fascinating story.
Mary Pat Holt
Feb 05, 2026
10/10 stars
I loved this book. It was recommended to me by a friend. I had not heard of the book or author and I knew next to nothing about life in China during the 19th century. I became so quickly absorbed into the story of Lily and Snow Flower. I liked the writing style-it definitely kept me wanting to read more. I even found myself looking things up to find out more about life in China during this time. Great book!
Jovanna Abdou
Dec 19, 2025
8/10 stars
"Obey, obey, obey, then do what you want."

Snow Flower and Lily shared a relationship unlike anything I’ve ever seen before—they had a bond that transcended romantic and platonic labels. Their connection felt like a sacred light, something I wanted to protect, to witness, and to believe would keep glowing even after it had been put out. I also appreciate how certain aspects, such as laotong relationships, sworn sisterhoods, and nu shu, transcended, to a degree, the patriarchy by carving out spaces of worth and meaning.
Allison Nelson
Dec 10, 2025
8/10 stars
I liked this book a lot. I fell in love with the two main characters, despite feeling worlds away from them and not understanding why they did some things. This was full of chinese history, which I loved learning about. I felt like it was a very dark story, though - I never got a good feeling from it and there was this constant sense of foreboding.
Cobbie
Apr 19, 2025
10/10 stars
Loved this book.

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