Men We Reaped: A Memoir

In five years, Jesmyn Ward lost five young men in her life-to drugs, accidents, suicide, and the bad luck that can follow people who live in poverty, particularly black men. Dealing with these losses, one after another, made Jesmyn ask the question: Why? And as she began to write about the experience of living through all the dying, she realized the truth-and it took her breath away. Her brother and her friends all died because of who they were and where they were from, because they lived with a history of racism and economic struggle that fostered drug addiction and the dissolution of family and relationships. Jesmyn says the answer was so obvious she felt stupid for not seeing it. But it nagged at her until she knew she had to write about her community, to write their stories and her own.

Jesmyn grew up in poverty in rural Mississippi. She writes powerfully about the pressures this brings, on the men who can do no right and the women who stand in for family in a society where the men are often absent. She bravely tells her story, revisiting the agonizing losses of her only brother and her friends. As the sole member of her family to leave home and pursue higher education, she writes about this parallel American universe with the objectivity distance provides and the intimacy of utter familiarity. A brutal world rendered beautifully, Jesmyn Ward's memoir will sit comfortably alongside Edwidge Danticat's Brother, I'm Dying, Tobias Wolff's This Boy's Life, and Maya Angelou's I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.

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Not That JLo
Jan 31, 2023
7/10 stars
Such a moving account of the loss of so many young men in the author's community, as well as a look at her childhood and the challenges of balancing two disparate worlds.
Briars Books
Jun 30, 2022
6/10 stars
“I wonder why silence is the sound of our subsumed rage, our accumulated grief. I decided this is not right, that I must give voice to this story.” ********************************************* Jacket: In four years, Jesmyn Ward lost five young men dear to her—lost to drugs, accidents, and suicide. Their deaths were unconnected, on the surface of things—but their lives were connected, by identity and place, and as Jesmyn dealt with these losses, one after another, she came to a realization at once obvious and staggering. ********************************************* What I liked: I think Jesmyn did a great job of bringing the readers into the reality of each young man. It would’ve been easy, as she admitted in regards to some of her fiction, to water down the stories. To paint the men with rose colored lenses, and only focus on the good, would’ve done her point a disservice. *********************************************************** What I was missing: While I fully grasped the concept from reading the jacket, I wanted more connections. I wanted more construction on the premise of the disadvantages mentioned as they not only related to the five men, but to society in a larger scope and I didn’t get that. *********************************************

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