Men We Reaped: A Memoir

By Jesmyn Ward

In five years, Jesmyn Ward lost five young men in her life-to drugs, accidents, suicide, and the bad luck that can follow people who live in poverty, particularly black men. Dealing with these losses, one after another, made Jesmyn ask the question: Why? And as she began to write about the experience of living through all the dying, she realized the truth-and it took her breath away. Her brother and her friends all died because of who they were and where they were from, because they lived with a history of racism and economic struggle that fostered drug addiction and the dissolution of family and relationships. Jesmyn says the answer was so obvious she felt stupid for not seeing it. But it nagged at her until she knew she had to write about her community, to write their stories and her own.

Jesmyn grew up in poverty in rural Mississippi. She writes powerfully about the pressures this brings, on the men who can do no right and the women who stand in for family in a society where the men are often absent. She bravely tells her story, revisiting the agonizing losses of her only brother and her friends. As the sole member of her family to leave home and pursue higher education, she writes about this parallel American universe with the objectivity distance provides and the intimacy of utter familiarity. A brutal world rendered beautifully, Jesmyn Ward's memoir will sit comfortably alongside Edwidge Danticat's Brother, I'm Dying, Tobias Wolff's This Boy's Life, and Maya Angelou's I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.

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Published Sep 16, 2014

272 pages

Average rating: 8.26

43 RATINGS

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Community Reviews

Kia
Jul 12, 2026
10/10 stars
Words cannot express how moving this book was to me. Wards’ story telling of her childhood from past to present and the stories of the young men she’s lost in her life from present to last melds together perfectly. All the stories meet up at one point and that last story is just a lot to take in. Beautiful story telling and I look forward to reading more books from her.
S. Mac
Jun 17, 2026
10/10 stars
An ode to the soul of the black experience!
musingsbymichelle
May 11, 2026
10/10 stars
I was a mess by the end of this memoir. Jesmyn Ward does a fantastic job honoring the men who have passed and the town they grew up in.
Jaimilee090
Jul 01, 2025
8/10 stars
As someone with brothers and lots of male relatives it hit hard. And insight into the hardships of being poor, black and the gender roles in the South of America.
Not That JLo
Jan 31, 2023
7/10 stars
Such a moving account of the loss of so many young men in the author's community, as well as a look at her childhood and the challenges of balancing two disparate worlds.

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