Memorial Drive: A Daughter's Memoir

An Instant New York Times Bestseller 

A New York Times Notable Book 

One of Barack Obama's Favorite Books of 2020

Named One of the Best Books of the Year by: The Washington Post, NPR, Shelf Awareness, Esquire, Electric Literature, Slate, The Los Angeles Times, USA Today, and InStyle

A chillingly personal and exquisitely wrought memoir of a daughter reckoning with the brutal murder of her mother at the hands of her former stepfather, and the moving, intimate story of a poet coming into her own in the wake of a tragedy

At age nineteen, Natasha Trethewey had her world turned upside down when her former stepfather shot and killed her mother. Grieving and still new to adulthood, she confronted the twin pulls of life and death in the aftermath of unimaginable trauma and now explores the way this experience lastingly shaped the artist she became.

With penetrating insight and a searing voice that moves from the wrenching to the elegiac, Pulitzer Prize–winning poet Natasha Trethewey explores this profound experience of pain, loss, and grief as an entry point into understanding the tragic course of her mother’s life and the way her own life has been shaped by a legacy of fierce love and resilience. Moving through her mother’s history in the deeply segregated South and through her own girlhood as a “child of miscegenation” in Mississippi, Trethewey plumbs her sense of dislocation and displacement in the lead-up to the harrowing crime that took place on Memorial Drive in Atlanta in 1985.

Memorial Drive is a compelling and searching look at a shared human experience of sudden loss and absence but also a piercing glimpse at the enduring ripple effects of white racism and domestic abuse. Animated by unforgettable prose and inflected by a poet’s attention to language, this is a luminous, urgent, and visceral memoir from one of our most important contemporary writers and thinkers.

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Published Jun 1, 2021

224 pages

Average rating: 8.05

62 RATINGS

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ClinicallyBookish
Feb 27, 2026
10/10 stars
"Do you know what it means to have a wound that never heals?" A daughter's mother. Murdered. A daughter's fear. A daughter's pain. A daughter's loss. A daughter's trauma. A daughter's healing. "Of course, we’re made up of what we’ve forgotten too, what we’ve tried to bury or suppress. Some forgetting is necessary and the mind works to shield us from things that are too painful; even so, some aspect of trauma lives on in the body, from which it can reemerge unexpectedly"
tammy_lolo
Mar 02, 2025
8/10 stars
Poignant, descriptive, and wonderfully detailed by the metaphors and perspective of a biracial woman finding her peace in a world that didn’t make peace with her. I loved it!
Lisa P
Jan 10, 2025
8/10 stars

I didn’t love the reading of this audiobook though it was read by the author herself, and it’s a memoir. I think it’s very well-written, but not necessarily well-read. I recommend reading it instead.

That out of the way… I don’t think I’m giving away any spoilers by saying the book dives into the author’s mother’s domestic abuse and ultimate murder at the hands of her second husband (the author’s stepfather). Additionally, the author explores her own childhood, racism, trauma, all in beautiful, if at times chilling and haunting, prose.
Tanesha’s Tips
Dec 12, 2024
8/10 stars
See my goodreads review!
Marydaleo
Dec 28, 2023
10/10 stars
The haunting and beautifully narrated true story of the murder of the author's mother.

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