Love the One You're With: A Novel

How do you know if you've found the one? Can you really love the one you're with when you can't forget the one who got away?

Emily Giffin, author of the New York Times bestselling novels Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof, poses these questions—and many more—with her highly anticipated, thought-provoking new novel Love the One You're With.

Ellen and Andy's first year of marriage doesn't just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she's living is the one she's meant to live. At once heartbreaking and funny, Love the One You're With is a tale of lost loves and found fortunes—and will resonate with anyone who has ever wondered what if.

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Published Apr 21, 2009

368 pages

Average rating: 7.2

44 RATINGS

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Mary Pat Holt
Feb 05, 2026
2/10 stars
This is not my 1st Emily Giffin book but it will probably be my last. This is a read by the beach or in my case, sit by the pool kinda book. I didn't care for any of the characters and I couldn't relate to any of them. I'm sure they exist, just not in my circle of friends.

Ellen & Andy (early 30's, married maybe 5-6 years) seem to have the perfect marriage. Until one day, when Ellen runs into old boyfriend, Leo, whom she hasn't seen in 8 years. They must've had some great sex/chemistry. The whole story was too predictable.
Barbara ~
Dec 11, 2024
8/10 stars
What happens when your ex comes back and disrupts your perfect life? What if you lose yourself in that perfect life?
Finding one send sometimes means you have to follow your heart and your head.
Rhianna Delano
Sep 01, 2024
6/10 stars
I spent too much time rolling my eyes at Ellen. You don’t want to get back with your ex, he’s toxic. Yeah yeah, “Love the One You’re With”, I should’ve known she would’ve stayed with her husband but was very concerned she was gonna leave her husband for a hot second.
garciaa99
Apr 18, 2022
4/10 stars
basically a inner monologue of the main character fighting w herself back & forth the entire book

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