Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)

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An essential set of tools and principles for healing from heartbreak, finding love, and loving life.

Finding love can be hard. Being single can feel even harder. In Love Life, world-renowned coach and New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey provides a practical roadmap with actionable dating advice for letting go of past relationships, overcoming the fear of getting left behind, and finding the love we want.

Sometimes it feels like life and love are working against us. Just finding someone we like can be a struggle. Even when we do, we often find they’re not ready, or they want different things. Then there are the internal fears and anxieties that lead us to self-sabotage and get in the way of a healthy relationship—that make us indulge the wrong behavior in others, hold back from expressing our needs for fear of losing someone, or overinvest in people and lose ourselves in the process. Love Life sheds light on these common patterns and how to overcome them, by showing us how to adopt new standards, elegantly communicate them, and develop the deepest levels of confidence that underpin them. Like many of us, Hussey has gone through major life changes—including healing his own heartbreak—and he opens up about his experiences, vulnerabilities, and mistakes.

Love Life is about doing love better. More than a book about romantic relationships, Love Life shows us how to take control of each of the major relationships in our lives: our relationship with others, our relationship with ourselves, and our relationship with life itself.

Our love lives have the power to elevate or eradicate the adjacent joy in our lives. Love Life sets you on the path to finding the love of your life, while deepening your love for life.

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Published Apr 23, 2024

272 pages

Average rating: 8.5

12 RATINGS

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Tnc bookclub
Jun 15, 2025
6/10 stars
Love life: How to raise your standards, find your person and live happily every after 8 June 2025 Our rating : 5.5 / 10 Love Life is warm, encouraging, and filled with practical takeaways—and deserves applause for its positivity and accessibility. But its modest depth and echoes of existing content may leave some wanting more. A solid pick if you’re seeking a confidence-boost and roadmap for loving better—just don’t expect a radical shift.
jenlynerickson
May 25, 2024
10/10 stars
I’m looking for a man in finance. Trust fund. 6’5. Blue eyes. Or at least that’s what’s currently trending on Instagram. However, “The only person worth having in our love story is the one who values what we have to give…They’re kind and compassionate. They show up for you, consistently, reliably. They communicate well. They’re honest and trustworthy. They make a great teammate. They care about your day and the challenges you face, and they want to support you as you face them.” “Signs early in a relationship of an ability to follow through are an important way someone can show they are the kind of person who will be there for you…Avoid the reliably unreliable.” (Yes, Scrub, I’m talking to you.) In Love Life, relationship guru Matthew Hussey applies mindful dating to the four levels of importance in a relationship: admiration, mutual attraction, commitment, compatibility. “To have an exceptional love life, we must also cultivate a love for life…The most important step to finding your own love story is learning how to be happy outside of one.” If “you’re loving life and being you, and you’re not trying to fill a hole by finding someone who will make you feel good enough, then that’s the jackpot.” “My greatest fear should be wasting my life on someone who won’t make me happy, not scaring someone away…Someone ‘not choosing you’ is the biggest turn-off in the world…They have their reasons (real or not), but I have my reality.” Be the reality check you want to see in the world, and leave people better than you found them. Online dating may be a digital buffet, but “there’s nothing emotionally overwrought about a coffee.” So grab a cup, a copy of Love Life and settle in (not for) a book that will concretize your contentment and caffeinate your love life and love FOR life!

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