Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers: The self-love guide to growing, healing and learning to put yourself first
Social media star Tam Kaur's ultimate guide to self-love, helping you find yourself through dating, breakups, bad relationships and so much more.
I know exactly what it's like to put others first, to settle for less than you deserve and to navigate relationships while trying to balance your independence and goals. But we are worth more than this.
Having embarked on my self-love journey, I found that women often lacked clarity on what self-love really means and how to achieve it and this needs to change. I've packed Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers with lessons and methods I've learnt so that no woman is left accepting what life throws at her, but rather can use every moment as a tool to craft her dream self and reality. Whether you're single, taken, heartbroken, healing or trying to level up into the best version of yourself, this book is for you.
Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers is an in-depth, comprehensive guide for all things self-love, including actionable homework, transformative tools and reassuring information that will help every woman learn to:
- set boundaries
- escape external validation
- build confidence
- transform pain into power
- maintain loving yourself whilst loving others, and so much more.
Every woman deserves to cultivate a lasting love for the person who matters most: you. It's finally time to buy yourself the damn flowers.
Tam x
I know exactly what it's like to put others first, to settle for less than you deserve and to navigate relationships while trying to balance your independence and goals. But we are worth more than this.
Having embarked on my self-love journey, I found that women often lacked clarity on what self-love really means and how to achieve it and this needs to change. I've packed Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers with lessons and methods I've learnt so that no woman is left accepting what life throws at her, but rather can use every moment as a tool to craft her dream self and reality. Whether you're single, taken, heartbroken, healing or trying to level up into the best version of yourself, this book is for you.
Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers is an in-depth, comprehensive guide for all things self-love, including actionable homework, transformative tools and reassuring information that will help every woman learn to:
- set boundaries
- escape external validation
- build confidence
- transform pain into power
- maintain loving yourself whilst loving others, and so much more.
Every woman deserves to cultivate a lasting love for the person who matters most: you. It's finally time to buy yourself the damn flowers.
Tam x
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Community Reviews
Second read of the year: Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers by Tam Kaur 🌸
Rating: 8.5/10
This was the perfect reset after our previous read. It gently brought us back to our younger selves—making us wish we had discovered it sooner, but grateful we found it now.
Beautifully written, the book goes beyond self-love. It dives into friendships, trauma, family, and romantic relationships in a way that feels honest and relatable. It’s a reminder that taking care of yourself sets the standard for how others treat you.
Yes, “people treat you how you let them”—but it also reassures you that the hurt you’ve experienced wasn’t something you deserved, and that you’re allowed to want more for yourself.
A truly eye-opening and healing read—one that feels like both growth and a little bit of magic ✨
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