Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire

NOW you can get busy doing what you were placed on this planet to do. NOW you can be honest, honest, honest about all of it, even the hard stuff, even the humiliating stuff, even the secret stuff. NOW you can walk in your convictions of faith and ask new questions unafraid. NOW you can be so free, because you are not searching for value from any source other than your own beautiful soul made piece by piece by God who adores you and is ready to get on with the business of unleashing you into this world.

In this book, I break it down into five self-reflective categories—who I am, what I need, what I want, what I believe, and how I connect—and by working your way through them, you will learn to

own your space, ground, and gifts (they are YOURS, sister);
be strong in your relationships and lay down passive aggression, resentment, drama, and compliance;
say GUILT-FREE what you want and what you need; and
welcome spiritual curiosity and all the fantastic change that doing so creates.

You with me, beloveds? If we do this work on our own selves now, not only will we discover a life truly worth living, but we will free our daughters to rise up behind us, with spines straight, heads up, and coated in our strength.

This recommended reading and discussion guide was shared and sponsored in partnership with Nelson Books.

Book club questions for Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker

Use these discussion questions to guide your next book club meeting.

Do you struggle with an inside that doesn’t necessarily match your outside? In what areas are the biggest disconnect for you?

In what contexts do you find yourself most often “adjusting your sails” to fit in? What is it about those contexts that causes you to shape-shift?

Have you felt the tension of being too much and not being enough — separately or simultaneously? How did it make you feel?

Which of the "Assertive" and "Reserved" responses on pages 30 and 32 do you gravitate towards? Which seems easiest/most challenging, and which do you need to put into practice?

Have you been mean to your body... have you loathed her, withheld care, insisted on impossible standards, denied her things, mistreated her? In what ways will you better care for her?

Do you struggle with acknowledging that you deserve goodness — full stop — no ifs, ands, or buts? If so, why do you think that is; what part of your story has contributed to this?

Have you experienced the manipulative tactic of gaslighting before? In what ways did it affect you?

When was the last time you asked for help? How did it make you feel? And, when was the last time you should have asked for help and didn't? How did that make you feel?

Connection is so integral to our emotional well-being, but have you talked yourself out of it? Do any of the excuses for keeping us lonely from page 94 hit close to home?

What is a dream you've been sitting on? What would it take to give you the nudge to start making that dream come true? Have you told someone — family, co-workers, even your squad of closest friends — about your dream? What was their reaction?

Do you have a hard time saying "no"? Said another way, are you a "yes" girl, but all those yeses are drowning out your Good Yeses? Why do you think that is?

Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire Book Club Questions PDF

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“Here’s the truth: Jen has been pushing me out of my comfort zone like a loving big sister for over a decade, and that’s exactly what reading this book is like, in the best possible way: like sitting across from someone who loves you enough to tell you the truth and light up your heart and set you free. I want every woman in my life to read this book—every single one.”

— Shauna Niequist, New York Times bestselling author of Present Over Perfect

“Some books are all in the head or all in the heart, others are all in the hustle or the habit, but this book is blood and bone and soul. It pulses with energy and heat, with sincerity and goodness, strength and truth. It is beautifully written, sincerely good, authentically lived absolutely, but I also believe it will literally save lives. I cannot wait to press this book into the hands of every woman I know. A good guide who is worthy of your trust, Jen has offered us more than a map or a guidebook, this is truly a path for transformation, wholeness, and freedom for the sake of the world. I love this book and I love her.”

—Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist and Miracles and Other Reasonable Things