Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?

 
You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
 
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

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Published Sep 2, 2003

448 pages

Average rating: 8.31

13 RATINGS

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Community Reviews

E Clou
May 10, 2023
8/10 stars
Really good and interesting. I realize the majority of the men accused are guilty but it would have been helpful to explore how to determine when a man isn't guilty as some unstable women do lie and this can be devastating to families. Also the book felt a little long and repetitive. Definitely a great tool for women in abusive relationships.
spookyreading
Apr 07, 2023
7/10 stars
I don't think I'm really in the demographic for this book, but I still found it useful to examine the purpose behind abusive behavior, especially in men. However, a little of the information and understanding of certain topics is dated, especially when concerning gender, which is why I didn't rate it higher.

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