The Things We Never Say: A Novel

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • In this “profound, resplendent novel”* from Pulitzer Prize–winning author Elizabeth Strout, a chance incident sparks a powerful realization in a beloved teacher’s life.
SHORTLISTED FOR THE BOOKER PRIZE • ONE OF BARACK OBAMA’S FAVORITE BOOKS OF THE SUMMER
“Strout’s capacious empathy and rigorous attention to the nuances of human behavior and psychology are as evident as ever.”—The Boston Globe
“Artie Dam is someone you may never be able to forget.”—Financial Times*
Artie Dam is living a double life. He spends his days teaching history to eleventh graders, expanding their young minds, correcting their casual cruelties, and lending a kind word to those who need it most. He goes to holiday parties with his wife of three decades, makes small talk with neighbors, and, on weekends, takes his sailboat out on the beautiful Massachusetts Bay. He is, by all appearances, present and alive. But inside, Artie is plagued by feelings of isolation. He looks out at a world gone mad—at himself and the people around him—and turns a question over and over in his mind: How is it that we know so little about one another, even those closest to us?
And then, one day, Artie learns that life has been keeping a secret from him, one that threatens to upend his entire world. Once he learns it, he is forced to chart a new course, to reconsider the relationships he holds most dear—and to make peace with the mysteries at the heart of our existence.
Elizabeth Strout, as we have come to expect, delivers a moving exploration of the human condition—one that brims with compassion for each and every one of her indelible characters. With exquisite prose and profound insight, The Things We Never Say takes one man’s fears and loneliness and makes them universal. And in the same breath, captures the abiding love that sustains and holds us all.
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Community Reviews
Excellent and super current
Well written but a bit of a political statement and downer.
It was a good hood with interesting characters with a story line that is relevant
This book was awful. I try not to leave negative reviews, but wtf did I just read? The book is mostly an internal monologue of a middle aged liberal white man's struggles with depression and the political climate. And that would have been fine except there's no plot. And every time I started to appreciate the book, the author would throw in some off-the-wall, disgusting comment about a woman's weight or a student's nipples???
Does not pass the Bechtel test. Characters are flat. Writing is prosaic and almost entirely devoid of descriptions. Characters lack any sense of emotional awareness. And the women are all intolerable.
Would not recommend. Unless you're looking for a melodrama with a old white dude as the protagonist?
I kept putting this back on hold at the public library, as I just didn't seem to have time to get to it with other books already in my queue. But once I finally downloaded it, the story absorbed me. The story was told from the main character's point-of-view, Artie Dam. Artie is a high school American History teacher and former soccer coach. He is married to his long-time wife, Evie Dam, who was primarily a homemaker and mother, but later became a licensed counselor. And their son, Rob Dam, who is a an IT specialist. Rob is married to concert pianist Vanessa. The story is very "interior" to Artie's thoughts and mental state of mind, which seems to be in crisis. On the outside, he is happy-go-lucky and the student-beloved Mr. Dam, or Coach Damn Dam. But inside, Artie is having ideations about ending his life. It's not that he can put his finger on it, but he seems to be wondering whether there is more to life. And why his wife and he, as well as he and his son, are in separate worlds or have different ideas on what make each of them happy. This book explores what so many people deal with, as their dreams become mere existence, when they age. The older folks are pushed aside, even though they feel the same as they always have, on the inside. There is a twist in the story that shakes Artie's very world as he knows it. I personally admired the way author Strout had Artie process and deal with it, though I feel he certainly could have used some clinical talk therapy as he dealt with the fallout. He did confide in his neighbor, who served as a sounding board. So in that respect, he wasn't entirely alone in his thoughts. His son was also a great comfort, as he was also 'in on the secret'. And their relationship became very close. Great read!!