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The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Passionate advocate for end-of-life care and TikTok star Hadley Vlahos shares moving stories of joy, wisdom, and redemption from her patients’ final moments in this “brilliant” (Zibby Owens, Good Morning America) memoir.
“This extraordinary book helps dispel fear around death and dying—revealing it to be a natural part of our soul’s evolution.”—Laura Lynne Jackson, New York Times bestselling author of Signs and The Light Between Us
Talking about death and dying is considered taboo in polite company, and even in the medical field. Our ideas about dying are confusing at best: Will our memories flash before our eyes? Regrets consume our thoughts? Does a bright light appear at the end of a tunnel? For most people, it will be a slower process, one eased with preparedness, good humor, and a bit of faith. At the forefront of changing attitudes around palliative care is hospice nurse Hadley Vlahos, who shows that end-of-life care can teach us just as much about how to live as it does about how we die.
Vlahos was raised in a strict religious household, but began questioning her beliefs in high school after the sudden death of a friend. When she got pregnant at nineteen, she was shunned by her community and enrolled herself in nursing school to be able to support herself and her baby. But nursing soon became more than a job: when she focused on palliative care and hospice work, it became a calling.
In The In-Between, Vlahos recounts the most impactful experiences she’s had with the people she’s worked with—from the woman who never once questioned her faith until she was close to death, to the older man seeing visions of his late daughter, to the young patient who laments that she spent too much of her short life worrying about what others thought of her—while also sharing her own fascinating journey.
Written with profound insight, humility, and respect, The In-Between is a heartrending memoir that shows how caring for others can transform a life while also offering wisdom and comfort for those dealing with loss and providing inspiration for how to live now.
“This extraordinary book helps dispel fear around death and dying—revealing it to be a natural part of our soul’s evolution.”—Laura Lynne Jackson, New York Times bestselling author of Signs and The Light Between Us
Talking about death and dying is considered taboo in polite company, and even in the medical field. Our ideas about dying are confusing at best: Will our memories flash before our eyes? Regrets consume our thoughts? Does a bright light appear at the end of a tunnel? For most people, it will be a slower process, one eased with preparedness, good humor, and a bit of faith. At the forefront of changing attitudes around palliative care is hospice nurse Hadley Vlahos, who shows that end-of-life care can teach us just as much about how to live as it does about how we die.
Vlahos was raised in a strict religious household, but began questioning her beliefs in high school after the sudden death of a friend. When she got pregnant at nineteen, she was shunned by her community and enrolled herself in nursing school to be able to support herself and her baby. But nursing soon became more than a job: when she focused on palliative care and hospice work, it became a calling.
In The In-Between, Vlahos recounts the most impactful experiences she’s had with the people she’s worked with—from the woman who never once questioned her faith until she was close to death, to the older man seeing visions of his late daughter, to the young patient who laments that she spent too much of her short life worrying about what others thought of her—while also sharing her own fascinating journey.
Written with profound insight, humility, and respect, The In-Between is a heartrending memoir that shows how caring for others can transform a life while also offering wisdom and comfort for those dealing with loss and providing inspiration for how to live now.
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Community Reviews
Hadley Vlahos “The In-Between” feels like is a freshman effort trying to tackle a senior-level dissertation. Vlahos attempts to make an argument for a third way between believing and non-believing by sharing remembrances of the final days of her hospice patients along with the tumultuous and miraculous times of her own life. It’s a journey I was eager to read but should have checked my own expectations at the door.
Vlahos should first be commended for tackling such an emotional topic as hospice and end-of-life care. She does so with a decorum and straightforward prose that makes the topic accessible and less frightening than you might expect. The writing is at the same time so rudimentary that you’d wish it had just been delivered as a TED Talk or Podcast Series. The power in the message is dulled by Vlahos’ style but worth noting that topic deserves exploring all the same.
The accolades for the book rests solely in how Vlahos manages to gracefully argue for the “In-Between” as a space between the realities of life and death in contrast to how belief. Both shape how we seek care and what we think comes after we’re gone. In that space, there is room for all walks of life to find acceptance, peace, and purpose even in the final moments. It’s also a moment where the otherwise spiritual phenomena walk side by side with physiological events.
This exploration of a very metaphysical topic makes the book equal parts spiritual journey, self-help, and philosophical musing on what comes next. Especially in how Vlahos uses her own personal journey to highlight the lack of humanity in our healthcare system while also offering glimpses of deep compassion. It’s a quick and straightforward read that has promise but under delivers. Perhaps I was expecting something akin to Oliver Sacks and his book “An Anthropologist on Mars.”
I loved this book! I could not put it down . I loved how the author related he life’s journey to her patients. It made me feel emotional and thankful for humans that care about each other.
I loved this book. I read this book in a single sitting, staying up late to get through one more patient story. It was the sort of book I needed to read. It helped me have hope even in stories of tragedy.
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