Sorrow and Bliss: A Novel

Winner of the Book of the Year (Fiction) at the British Book Awards
Shortlisted for the Women's Prize for Fiction
"Brilliantly faceted and extremely funny. . . . While I was reading it, I was making a list of all the people I wanted to send it to, until I realized that I wanted to send it to everyone I know." — Ann Patchett
The internationally bestselling, compulsively readable novel—a work of spiky, sharp, intriguingly dark comedy that combines the psychological insight of Sally Rooney with the sharp humor of Nina Stibbe and the emotional resonance of Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.
Martha Friel just turned forty. She used to work at Vogue and was going to write a novel. Now, she creates internet content for no one. She used to live in Paris. Now, she lives in a gated community in Oxford that she hates and can’t bear to leave. But she must now that her loving husband Patrick has just left.
Because there’s something wrong with Martha. There has been for a long time, an unnamed mental illness since a little bomb went off in her brain, at seventeen, leaving her changed in a way no doctor or drug could fix then and no one, even now, can explain—why can say she is so often sad, cruel to everyone she loves, why she finds it harder to be alive than other people.
With Patrick gone, the only place Martha has left to go is her childhood home, the heart of a chaotic family drama, to live with her chaotic parents, to survive without Ingrid, the sister who made their growing-up bearable, who said she would never give up on Martha, and who finally has.
It feels like the end but maybe, by going back, Martha will get to start again. Maybe there is a different story to be written, if Martha can work out where to begin.
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Thought the ending wrapped it all up a bit too neatly but enjoyed the rest a lot, though I still am not sure what the repeated use of '--' was supposed to achieve, i just found it distracting.
The character Meg is very relatable - thinking you’re the problem in everyone’s life yet also taking no accountability at the end of the day to actions and words said to people closest to you.
They never disclosed her mental health diagnoses but is a good capture of mental health struggles
Cried in the scene with her and Patrick where she admits the worst thing she’s ever done to him was never ask him how he felt about the marriage
They never disclosed her mental health diagnoses but is a good capture of mental health struggles
Cried in the scene with her and Patrick where she admits the worst thing she’s ever done to him was never ask him how he felt about the marriage
Devastatingly accurate. Incredible.
pretty awful
I’m so mad at myself for wasting time with this book. It’s downright depressing and I didn’t like any of the characters. The author does a good job describing crippling depression, but then it goes nowhere. What was the point? Why bother writing this? I’m shocked at the positive reviews.
I’m so mad at myself for wasting time with this book. It’s downright depressing and I didn’t like any of the characters. The author does a good job describing crippling depression, but then it goes nowhere. What was the point? Why bother writing this? I’m shocked at the positive reviews.
Recommended read. Heavy, quirky, hilarious, depressing, loving and hopeful all at once. Martha the main character frustrated me and I loved her simultaneously which is apt for having loved ones with mental illness. You know it’s not them, but it is them. Separating the person and their behaviours is so difficult when you’re up close and personal.
The novel follows Martha’s raw personal journey but her story powerfully connects with and relies on others in her life. It’s interesting to reflect that the two people who most change Martha’s trajectory is a stranger (a doctor) and her mother (someone she’s rallied against and avoided for most of her life). Even though her sister and her husband are her closest relationships (and I love these connections in the book) they aren’t ultimately the ones who force her to help herself.
The novel follows Martha’s raw personal journey but her story powerfully connects with and relies on others in her life. It’s interesting to reflect that the two people who most change Martha’s trajectory is a stranger (a doctor) and her mother (someone she’s rallied against and avoided for most of her life). Even though her sister and her husband are her closest relationships (and I love these connections in the book) they aren’t ultimately the ones who force her to help herself.
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