Men Explain Things to Me

In her comic, scathing essay "Men Explain Things to Me," Rebecca Solnit took on what often goes wrong in conversations between men and women. She wrote about men who wrongly assume they know things and wrongly assume women don't, about why this arises, and how this aspect of the gender wars works, airing some of her own hilariously awful encounters.
She ends on a serious note-- because the ultimate problem is the silencing of women who have something to say, including those saying things like, "He's trying to kill me!"
This book features that now-classic essay with six perfect complements, including an examination of the great feminist writer Virginia Woolf 's embrace of mystery, of not knowing, of doubt and ambiguity, a highly original inquiry into marriage equality, and a terrifying survey of the scope of contemporary violence against women.

Writer, historian, and activist Rebecca Solnit is the author of eighteen or so books on feminism, western and indigenous history, popular power, social change and insurrection, wandering and walking, hope and disaster, including the books Men Explain Things to Me and Hope in the Dark, both also with Haymarket; a trilogy of atlases of American cities; The Faraway Nearby; A Paradise Built in Hell: The Extraordinary Communities that Arise in Disaster; A Field Guide to Getting Lost; Wanderlust: A History of Walking; and River of Shadows, Eadweard Muybridge and the Technological Wild West (for which she received a Guggenheim, the National Book Critics Circle Award in criticism, and the Lannan Literary Award). A product of the California public education system from kindergarten to graduate school, she is a columnist at Harper's and a regular contributor to the Guardian.

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Published Sep 1, 2015

176 pages

Average rating: 7.46

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Sue Dix
Mar 14, 2026
10/10 stars
I love reading essay collections, and Rebecca Solnit’s essays are some of the best. This is one of the Diverse Book Club’s September choices (theme: Stories of Strong Women). One of the major points of this essay collection about feminism is that even though we have acquired the words and the language to speak about feminism, women are still fighting to be believed and seen as authoritative members of humanity. Feminism needs women and men working together for gender equality, for marriage equality, and as equal partners in everything.
Declan
Nov 12, 2025
7/10 stars
Kinda just seemed like a rant with no clear structure. But helped me gain a better understanding of the female perspective in the context of men.
Pansy
Oct 09, 2025
10/10 stars
very timely
Shahna
Jul 18, 2024
6/10 stars
ugh,
men


gross
Flo Lau
Mar 23, 2024
4/10 stars
2.5 stars!

I'm normally pretty interested in feminist literature and essays about social change. I really like reading other people's take and analysis on that kind of thing, but this book just didn't do it for me. I mean, it wasn't bad writing or anything, but it mostly was information I already knew, except for the one on Virginia Woolf's ideas regarding being free in the unknown, but that one got a bit too philosophical for my tastes. Overall, I don't think the essays really resonated with me, unlike the ones I read in [b:The Geek Feminist Revolution|26114477|The Geek Feminist Revolution|Kameron Hurley|https:images.gr-assets.com/books/1442933437s/26114477.jpg|46812613] a while ago, which I liked a lot more. This author did have some good thoughts and ideas, but not enough for me to give this book a higher rating, sadly.

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