"Brittany Means has pieced together the shards of a devastating childhood in this powerful memoir. It's gut-wrenching but at the same time triumphant, harrowing yet exquisitely told. Hell If We Don't Change Our Ways is a story of survival that left me choked up and cheering."
-Jeannette Walls, author of The Glass Castle ". . . the book's lasting impact might be what it demands of the memoir genre. Brittany Means has, at once, created the most readable and the most psychologically rigorous book I've read in decades. I needed the reminder that art can do this."
--Kiese Laymon, author of Heavy Brittany Means's childhood was filled with abuse, neglect, violence, and instability, in part caused by her and her mother's nomadic existence. Poverty, sexual assault, and evangelical Christian culture didn't help. Spending her childhood riding shotgun as her mother struggled to escape abusive relationships, Brittany's life was a blur of highways and traumas that collapsed any effort to track time. With no money and only burned bridges behind her, Brittany took care of her younger brother, managed the instability of her home life, and attempted to make sense of the troublesome world around her. As Brittany grew older, struggling through her own complicated relationships, she began to recognize that hell wasn't only the place she read about in the Bible; it was the experience of her family, caught in a cycle of violence. While untangling the spider web of her most painful memories, Brittany crafts a harrowing tale of self-preservation with a unique narrative style that is part memoir and part modern-day feminist coming-of-age tale. The result is a masterpiece, a marvel, and a sparkling example of a woman's ability to withstand the most horrific experiences -- and still thrive.

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