Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
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On the one hand, I think every adult human with a sexuality (all of us) should read this book. There are real nuggets of pure gold in here. On the other hand, this is a dumbed down version of the actual science (weird, given the full title of the book) into an easily digestible version that has cringey turns of phrases and really painful "dialogue" from her made up patients.
I listened to the book and while I appreciate and respect Nagoski as a sex educator, her writing and voice talent skills weren't where they ought to be to get the full five stars.
I listened to the book and while I appreciate and respect Nagoski as a sex educator, her writing and voice talent skills weren't where they ought to be to get the full five stars.
Great read. Really helped me understand that I am normal and nothing is wrong with me or my partner. Other amazing gems that I think should be required reading for teen girls.
I loved this book! I love how Emily Nagoski makes the science of female sexuality accessible. I cannot recommend this highly enough!
This book was recommended to me by Holly in Peru. I loved this book. I loved how in the first chapter it simply reviewed anatomy. I loved how it dispelled beliefs that we were brought up to believe regarding what is "normal" and how it "should work". I think learning about non-concordance was really important for me and I want everyone to learn about it. The one issue with the book, which the author does acknowledge, it is written mainly based on the heterosexual afab experience. Thank you so much for this recommendation Holly. It has definitely helped with my confidence.
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